The Coming Out Tag

I’m coming out…twice.

A huge thanks and credit to Cassie from @ZombieGoddessBeauty for creating this and tagging me. I was tagged right after writing my coming out post and decided to wait to do this.

I’m hoping to catch up on some tags I haven’t done yet this month and don’t plan on tagging anyone for this because that is totally up to each person. If you want to do the tag, go for it!

The Questions

1.) What do you identify as?

Bisexual

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2.) How did you discover your sexuality?

The first time I thought I might be Bi was 16 and pushed it away for many years until my early 20’s.

I can’t say I didn’t have an attraction towards the same sex before 16, but I actually developed a crush on a friend of mine. I will never say her name but that’s when I was like, “Oh…shit.”

3.) Who was the first person you told?

It’s a tie between my mom, sister, and good friend Tasha. I think I told them all around the same time. And no one cared.

4.) Describe what it was like coming out.

It wasn’t a huge thing because I knew how they would react (and I’m grateful for that) but if I’m coming out to someone whose reaction I’m not sure about, I do get nervous.

5.) If you’re out, how did your parents/guardians/friends react when you told them?

Like I just said, my family and close friends didn’t care. I’ve even come out to some coworkers who didn’t either. So far, I haven’t had any negative reactions but I’m not out to everyone I know either.

6.) What is one question you hate people asking about your sexuality?

Luckily, I haven’t had anyone make stereotypical comments, but something that annoys me is when people forget I like BOTH. I have coworkers who just think I’m a lesbian. Or they try to find guys for me but not girls.

I have no interest in dating right now so none of it matters anyway, but it can be annoying.

7.) What’s your favorite thing about the LGBTQ+ community?

Like Cassie said, how accepting they are. I’ve only been to Pittsburgh’s Pride a few times but I never felt uncomfortable and I’m always uncomfortable, especially with my appearance, and you never get the feeling anyone’s judging you…accept for the ones who do judge, unfortunately.

We also have really cool flags.

8.) Have you ever been to a gay bar?

No, but I would love to go and see a drag show. There aren’t any close by and I can barely stay up past 11 anymore.

9.) Who is your favorite LGBTQ+ Icon/Advocate/Celebrity?

I love Billy Porter. He does/wears whatever he wants. I love the original Queer Eye crew. Maybe Carson is why I love to wear color…

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But I recently watched The Death and Life of Marsha P. Johnson (and wasn’t aware of the issues surrounding that documentary) and learned about so many people who fought for our rights, not just at Stonewall but all their lives, and people like Marsha and Sylvia Rivera deserve more recognition.

I also want to mention Shaun T, a fitness instructor, whose workouts I’ve been doing for years. He’s such a kind person and is so open to everyone. He also vlogs with his husband.

10.) Have you been in a relationship and how did you meet?

Only with the opposite sex which is unfortunate.

11.) Have you ever faced discrimination?

No, and it’s one of the reasons why I’m still timid to come out to more people. It’s a shitty feeling and I can’t even imagine how it is for those who can’t come out to family/close friends.

12.) Your favorite LGBTQ+ movie or show?

There are so many shows I want to watch yet haven’t (like Pose) but some that have done well with their characters are Sense8, Marvel’s Runaways, even Glee which I was obsessed with as a teenager.

I’ve seen parts of Rent and love Kinky Boots (the broadway version.)

13.) The most ridiculous thing you’ve heard about the LGBTQ+ community?

Like Cassie said, that we accept pedophiles? I don’t even know what to say to that.

I also think of stereotypes in general. I used to work with this guy who thought lesbians were ugly so if an “attractive” female came out, he thought they were lying so they wouldn’t have to date men?

Again, no words.

14.) The LGBTQ+ slur you hate the most?

I definitely hate f***ot but the one I heard the most growing up was h*mo. A lot of people in my school, usually guys, used it in the most disgusted tone of voice.

15.) End this with one thing you’d like to tell the world about the LGBTQ+ Community.

Our lives have no effect on yours. Why so many people care so much about what others do with their lives, as long as they’re not hurting anyone else, I will never understand. If two men who live up the street want to get married or that person wants to transition, again, it has no effect on your life.

Also, we have really cool flags.